Part I: How Eldest Daughters/Hero Children Struggle in Relationships | Ep 118

Today kicks off a three part, maybe four (lots to discuss!), that goes deep into a subject I broached on Instagram a few weeks back: Eldest daughters/hero children – i.e. the good girls, the rule followers, the helpers, the peacekeepers of the family — and how playing that role impacts our dating and relationship lives.

In today's episode I'm digging into the what and the why:

• What are the unique struggles of this camp of women — my main client — and why does it matter in our romantic relationships
• The nature of the hero child and their consistent role of trying to fill in the emotional gaps for the family
• How you can have a "great childhood" and feel "really loved" but still fall into this category and suffer the consequences
• Different permutations of what being the "hero child" looks like based on parental and sibling dynamics
• Why being people pleasers, perfectionists and good girls make relationships such a unique struggle

Books mentioned at top of episode:
Ambition Monster by Jennifer Romolini
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Glynnis Macnicole: I’m Mostly Here to Enjoy Myself, No One Tells You
Catherine Newman: We All Want Impossible Things, Sandwich
Good Material by Dolly Alderton
That Summer by Jennifer Weiner
Old Flame by Molly Prentiss
Carrie Soto is Back by Taylor Jenkins Reid
After I Do by Taylor Jenkins Reid

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